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DES MOINES
-- The lavender house with deep purple trim seems out of place amid
the tidy row of white and light gray colonial homes that line this
northeast Des Moines neighborhood.
The house,
which in the 1950s served as a Drake University sorority dorm, now
serves another purpose: helping 13 women and their children reclaim
their lives.
Angie Henderson
strolls downstairs to fetch her 5-year-old daughter, Kristen, from
her giggling friends who are watching "Beauty & the Beast." Angie
is cooking tonight and they have chores to do before dinner. Kristen
grabs her mother's hand and pulls her to their room upstairs, where
she slips into a pair of worn ballet slippers and dances around
her mother. Angie and Kristen have lived together only two months
now, and it’s a simple moment Angie no longer takes for granted.
Angie, 22,
had lost Kristen and her younger sister, Emily, 4, last year after
Thanksgiving. Her mother kicked Angie and her daughters out of the
house they shared in Newton, outside of Des Moines. She was tired
of seeing drug paraphernalia in her home. Angie spent Christmas
homeless, wandering around central Iowa scouring for the next fix
of her favorite drug: methamphetamine. Family members were raising
her girls.
"(Meth) made
me feel strong. I had to keep smoking it to keep the high," she
says. "Nothing else mattered."
Angie started
smoking meth when she was 16, the same year she became pregnant
with Emily. She says she stopped using drugs during both pregnancies,
but she started again after her girls were born. "I kept on messing
up," she says. "I never abused my kids...but I wasn't a good mom."
Angie’s family was willing to give her another chance. She returned
home and checked into a residential drug rehabilitation program.
She came to Rainbow Recovery Center in March; her daughters joined
her in May.
Down the hall
from Angie's room, a woman who once shot daily doses of heroin carefully
arranges her daughter's Barbie dolls next to a Barney doll, and
a meth addict smooths her daughter's hair with her hand before the
child joins other youngsters downstairs.
All the women
are learning to piece together the lives they thought they had lost
to drugs. Eleven of the 13 residents are meth addicts. At the Rainbow
Recovery Center, these mothers undergo treatment alongside their
children, providing an intimately different approach to rehabilitation.
"Here, you
don't just learn how to care for yourself, you learn how to care
for your kids, too," Angie says. "When you're using, whether or
not they (users) like to admit it or not, they didn't feed their
kids right or bathe their kids right because they didn't do it themselves."
Angie says
they learn how to adhere to a schedule, mimicking the timeline they
would follow if they held jobs and were getting children ready for
school. They get up at 6 a.m., feed and clothe their children by
7:30 a.m., attend group "meditation" or counseling from 8 to noon;
learn constructive ways to vent frustration during "community" from
3-5:30; then make dinner for the children. Lights are out by 8:30
p.m.
Rainbow’s executive
director Robb Meyer, who worked as the executive director of addictions
and treatment at Des Moines General Hospital, helped start the Rainbow
Center, the first meth-specific treatment program in the region.
The women stay
at the house for 90 to 120 days. They receive individual counseling
and attend parenting classes twice a week. They learn how to make
nutritious meals and how to manage money. The women who do not have
high school degrees are required to take classes toward earning
their General Equivalency Degree.
The two-story,
26-bed recovery center opened in early March. Before the program
started, there were only 16 beds in Iowa that served drug-addicted
women and their children in a residential setting.
Meyer opened
the home using a $10,000 inheritance from his father and he hopes
to keep it afloat with donations, volunteer work and Medicaid reimbursements.
The non-profit treatment center is $220,000 in debt, but Meyer is
optimistic: "We're doing the right stuff. We'll get it.
"We're different
in the fact that we address every aspect of a woman's life. We don't
shame these women; we find that one good thing, that one strength
and build off that. I believe in these women."
He also believes
mothers and children need to recover together.
“Being a responsible
person in recovery means accepting their responsibility raising
their children,” he says. “The child needs to be with its mother.
That’s nature.”
Typically,
children in meth-affected homes are placed with foster families
or are sent to live with relatives without fully understanding why
they cannot be with their mothers, Meyer says, and that can lead
to resentment and anger.
"The kids are
just as sick as the mom. They've been living in a house without
structure," he says. "They're involved in this dysfunction, too.
So why not let them be involved with treatment?"
When treatment
at Rainbow is completed, families are placed in a follow-up treatment
program where counselors help them find interim housing. Angie and
her daughters will move to a nearby halfway house to continue treatment
while she starts her first job.
"I'm not ready
to leave (treatment)," she says. "I don't think I could go out there
right now and stay clean. I know in my heart that I want to stay
clean, but it's hard out there.”
Every night,
Angie makes sure her daughters know how lucky they are to be together.
Every night they pray: "My youngest cannot go to sleep unless we
pray to God. We pray to keep the bad dreams away, to keep the monsters
away.
"I just surrender
every night and ask for one more day."
-- By Crystal
Carreon
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